Why People Root for the Underdog…then abandon them when they start winning…

Why People Root for the Underdog…then abandon them when they start winning…

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Have you ever wondered why it is so common to hear from people who have reached a certain level of success, that they lost friends, supporters and even mentors in the process? The unfortunate truth of the matter is that other people’s success is threatening to many. It makes real the big possibilities in life, making some feel they aren’t doing life right and that their time will never come. Someone we once looked up to in the workplace and were very supportive when we were starting out, might become our biggest hurdle if they have qualms with our success possibly outgrowing the need for them.

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One of the biggest reasons is people feeling you don’t need them anymore. Many supporters are most happy with you when they feel as though your success depends on them to some degree. Its similar to a mother and child, some parents find it hard to let go and see their child as an adult, capable of making their own decisions. Especially when some of those decisions goes against what the parent might choose.

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I don’t see this as a negative thing. I see it as a sign of growth and evolution. Some of my most vehement supporters have since moved on from advocating for me and there are absolutely no hard feelings. I see it as graduating to another level and the next mentor and supporters will fit where I’m headed, and not where I’ve been. I’ve had supervisors deny promotions to me, stating that I’m “not ready”, and when given the position anyway, I exceled, earned accolades and moved on to the next promotion. Sometimes abandonment is good and necessary. Sometimes growing up means growing out…and that’s okay.

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Love,

Jameelah

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www.JameelahRaoof.com

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Stop Waiting! Independent Author Workshop

June 23rd, 2018, 9am-12pm

Instructor: Jameelah Ra’oof

Dallas, Tx

More info: http://www.jameelahraoof.com/stop-waiting-workshop-tickets

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