Define Your Own Life

Define Your Own Life

Today I thought heavily about how I used to have a problem with not telling people what I actually thought for fear of being rejected or hurting someone’s feelings. These days I don’t say what I think because I don’t feel I have to. My actions speak louder than my words. I don’t have a need to convince others about anything related to who I am, because who I am is apparent in everything that I do.

I used to let other people’s opinions of me define my every action. If someone thought I was being unrealistic, I changed my outlook. If someone thought I was unsuccessful, I’d sit and question whether they were right. It took courage to listen to my OWN opinions of me and to let those opinions reign supreme. It took years, too many in fact, for me to see that I had total control over who I wanted to be.

“Someone else’s opinion of you, does not have to become your reality.” ~Les Brown

I had to stop following the crowd. I had to stop worrying about the things that were not important to my dreams and to the vision of what life was really about for me.

It takes courage to live your dreams.

It takes courage to be yourself.

It takes courage to leave your comfort zone.

It takes courage to be willing to fail, in order to succeed.

I had to ask myself, why was it so important to shop every weekend, or why it was so important to look perfect every time I walked out the door or why I had to blindly follow social norms that I truly didn’t believe in.

Once I began to focus on developing and revealing my authenticity, people either supported me or got out of my way. I became a force to be reckoned with and it was clear that unsolicited opinions and Ideas were not welcome.

I knew that if I did not make my own plans I would be used in someone else’s plan, and that plan would likely not have my best interest at heart.

When we allow others to take up permanent residence in our life they can’t just be a squatter, they have to earn their space. My time, energy and life are much too valuable to be traded to the lowest bidder.

You have dreams in you that the world needs. People who need your inspiration are watching you, waiting for you to step up to the plate and lead the way.

Forge your own path and create your own legacy, so that one day you can light that path for someone else. Don’t be fooled by small thinkers and small environments. Once you wake up and see the motives of others for what they are, you can then begin to rebuild and reinvent the amazing person that YOU are.

Be okay with being talked about, be okay with being in your own space and be okay with not being liked. The payoff for being YOU is priceless. God made us all to be individuals, yet we try so desperately to conform.

“The world needs that special gift that only you have!” ~Marie Forleo

Hold the space in your life to begin to define who you are, what you like and what you love. Allow your authenticity to shine.

Don’t just follow your dreams, run ahead of them, create a path for them, open doors for them and most of all, BELIEVE in them.

Love,

Jameelah