3 Reasons Why I Don’t Do Singles Events...

Recently I was invited to a singles event at a church and a couple of other events that are scheduled around Valentine’s Day. I don’t mind meeting and greeting with people but my overall reaction to all of the events was “not for me”. Whenever I am not interested in participating in a particular event or hanging out with a certain group of people, I like to ask myself why. In this case I thought of three big reasons why singles events will always be a “no go” for me.

1. I don’t like going to events that are specifically set up to make you “not single”. What if being single is my current goal? The attitude of, “its going to happen,” or “you just haven’t met the right one” plague these environments like a swarm of mosquitoes on a hot summer night. What if I am focused on growing other parts of my life right now and a relationship would distract me? This consideration is never made when these events are organized.

2. Many people at these events feel as though their singlehood is a curse or an ailment that needs to be fixed as opposed to the best time of their life. I see single-hood as the best time of my life. Therefor I like to be around other people who think the same way. My life is no less complete because I am single. My life is no less amazing because I’m single.

3. The events feel sad. The energy at singles events is not always happy and excited. The women are constantly sifting through the few men who showed up, rather than engaging in stimulating conversation. Many women are over-dressed and over-zealous. I don’t like that kind of energy.

Have you been invited to any singles events? What has been your experience?

Love,

Jam